I just listened to a lovely speaker who talked about connection and how it affects us a human beings and the impact it has on both our mental and physical health.
Do you know that when we have good, deep connection with friends and family, we improve our chances of longevity and health?
Do you also know that showing vulnerability will pay off in the end? It tends to have a domino effect, when one person dares to bare, more people follow.
How many times do we say ‘I’m fine’ when we aren’t? How many times do we actually say what we need when we feel low?
Not often enough is the answer. What stops us? Why is to so hard to show feelings when we are low? Happy and positive feelings are a lot easier to share, aren’t they?
The fear of being judged and fear of rejection are 2 reasons. To step out of that comfort zone takes courage and time but it’s worth it.
When we open up and are received by someone else who shows they care and listen no matter what, that is the best feeling ever. So, if we show others that being vulnerable is ok, we help others to dare to do the same.
Check out this talk, it’s 10 mins of your time: https://youtu.be/WKUgVpCqvfY
What can you do to improve connection? How can you reach out to people?
We have a few gatherings on our road every year and it is such a lovely way to get to know the neighbours. There is a street party every summer, a children’s play day in the autumn, a ladies night, Safari supper and other things through out the year. A great way to be connected to others nearby.
Obviously during Covid, a lot of this has not been possible but we have found other ways to connect via the WhatsApp group, impromptu get togethers outside and just chatting when we bump into each other. It feels good to be part of a community.
There are many people that are lonely around us. This is a problem in big and small communities and it affects our mental health in a detrimental way. We all need connection and feel a belonging whether it’s with neighbours, friends, work colleagues or clubs.
What can we do to be more present and create connection when and if needed? Are there people around us that are longing to belong?
Have a look around you and see what you can do. It all helps.
Enjoy!
